I must say that so far, it has been true for me. I have dated men that said: "I am sorry, you're just so smart that I can't handle you. I am a plus size woman, even though I do not have issues with the way I look, it is still a taboo for many people and especially for many men to be seen with a girl that weights above the average.
Of course, this is something I have been told directly: I am not too fit to be seen around with. Lately, I have been noticing that a whole new different phenomenon is happening with me in the dating scene. There are these men that are not scared to hold my hand or be seen with me, but they are still somewhat "handicapped": they are married men.
Married men started to be something in my life about five years ago. I remember breaking up a relationship with a guy who cheated on me and whose new girlfriend decided to attack me even though I was the one being cheated on and been invited to go out by a guy who have spoke to me several times on Twitter. I accepted without any regrets and had a great time with him. Lets say he was sort of a "public figure" and next day after that date I read in a newspaper that he was married and he had a baby.
Definitely, I did not see that coming and I spent that whole day trying to understand why that date worked so well if he was married. He never said a word about being married, and kept on calling me. And yeah, it happened what I wanted the less: his wife found out that he was seeing me.
She definitely came and started to fight. I tried to remain calm, and I told her the truth, something that many women do not believe when being in this situation. I told her something that unfortunately, I had to repeat a few other times to other women: Why do you come and fight only with me?
If I'm here is because this was a mutual decision and I am not the one who is in a relationship with you. My experience is that when wives listen to those words, they hate you times more and I have my own theory on why: is because you are actually telling them their husbands are not the perfect men they thought they were.
Here are just a few things to consider: 1. What kind of relationships have been modeled in your family? Do you notice a pattern of this behavior? How are you different? What do you feel nervous about? One of the biggest attractions to women in a relationship is emotional intimacy.
Most women are good listeners. Is it something you can control? Be strong and resist! Before I started dating my husband I tried convincing all my friends to date him.
When you feel good about yourself you generally view others more positively as well. Copyright Notice You may not, except with express written permission, distribute or commercially exploit the content. Click Here To Discover the Secret. You May Also Like. Anxious About a New Relationship? Is He Worth It? Relationship Library. Free Resources Courses Books. Facebook-f Twitter Pinterest. All rights reserved. Pin 2. They become selfish and a slave of their desires.
They feel trapped and unhappy while being married and crave for a new conquest. They are there but hard to identify. Also, abuse can be of many kinds, i. So, one of the other causes for men to get attracted to other women can be getting continuously abused and disrespected at home. This is one of the most common reasons in all marriages for any partner to go out and find someone else, be it the husband or the wife.
Most marriages, due to a lack of love and understanding, find it hard to grow and eventually fail to work out. They want someone who will understand them and will be there in thick and thin.
Someone who motivates him and helps him grow in life. If a married man is attracted to you, avoid him at all costs. If he does not stop, tell him clearly and firmly that you are not interested in him. Never get involved with a guy who is married to someone else.
You should not believe this guy because, in most cases, all he wants is to have fun with you for some time and move to his next target. If he can do such a cruel thing to his wife and his kids if any , then why do you think you are any different. He will not change for you or anybody.
Such men continue to be jerks all their life no matter what. We strongly believe that even in genuine cases where a man is unhappily married, he should be strong enough to let his wife know that. But if you are in love with a married guy, then, in this case, you need to act maturely and think rationally. Stop seeing this guy and keep distance as much as possible.
You being with a guy who is married to someone else is wrong on so many levels and will always be a bad choice no matter what.
You should know you deserve better than this, and there are so many guys out there who can make you feel happy and special. Even if he is in an unhappy marriage, do not entertain him until there is no other woman in his life.
Notice his body language when he is around. A married man will try to hide his marriage and family. If you happen to know that he is married, he will prefer not to talk about it.
Below are the ten possible signs that a guy interested in you might show. How many have you experienced? He is the one who is always initiating conversations and will try to find excuses to talk to you or be near you every time. You will find him talking to your friends so that he can get more time with you without anybody knowing or doubting. Suddenly the way he looks at will seem to be different.
Whenever you look at him, he smiles at you in a very different manner. Every time your eyes meet, he will hold the gaze. It all starts with that wicked smile and a few seconds of staring.
You will be able to see the difference between his way of talking to others and when he talks to you. He will be careful about how he looks around you and sometimes come across as nervous. You will notice him praising you all the time. He would want to be seen as someone who is very nice and sweet and someone you would be happy with. You will find him taking more interest in you than earlier.
He would want to know what you like, what you dislike, etc. Mostly he would be interested in what type of men you like to date and what is your idea of a perfect date so that he can take you on one. Sometimes he will give you subtle compliments about the way you smile or about your eyes or something else. He will always try to mark his presence around you, would want you to see that he feels differently for you and will make it evident.
By talking to you all the time, texting you when he is not around, or stalking you on social media, he will keep himself informed about your whereabouts.
His texts will seem to have some hidden meaning to them, and he will casually flirt with you over texts. He will start taking care of you or at least show it and be very interested in your daily routine, what you do, where you go, etc. A married guy who is interested in you would meet you more and more.
He would want you to know about him and will feel good when he is with you. He will frequently ask you out, and if you guys work together, he would want to have lunch together every day. Also, he might casually ask to drop you to your home or pick you up every day. You will feel that for him, you are more than just a colleague or friend. Not only would he want to know about your relationship status frequently, but also ask you questions about your past relationships and how and why they ended.
If you are dating someone else already, he might act jealous but will never accept it when asked. He will try and know a bit about this guy and then may tell you all the bad things about him in a bid to prove that he is better.
It will always be full of how he never wanted to get married and was forced into doing so or how he regrets getting married to the wrong person. Not only will he try to get your sympathy by showing how unhappy and unloved he feels but will also try to exploit you emotionally. There will be lots of compliments and especially about how you understand him more than his wife.
He will always behave differently when others are around, particularly friends, as they are the ones who would know he is married. Married men mostly meet the other women in private because of the fear of being caught. They will always invite you to less crowded places or places that are far from his home or office. He will never introduce you to his friends and will avoid meeting your friends as your date.
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